I’m not perfect. Not even close. Most days, dishes are in the sink, homework is all over the kitchen counter and the beds are unmade. In fact, last night I went to my son’s basketball practice with a huge hole in the back of my paint-stained sweatpants. Don’t even get me started on the trash in the backseat of my car.
So it came as a surprise to me when I sat down to write a blog post and realized perfection was standing in my way. Huh? No way, it couldn’t be.
I had ideas to share and I really wanted to publish them on my website. Following through on this goal was nearly impossible. It would require a whole lot of work and take forever. Who had the time or energy to commit to forever? It wasn’t getting done.
Needing to be perfect was preventing me from making movement toward my goal.
Perfectionism shows up in the following ways:
- Resisting or the refusing to accept or comply
- Lacking commitment and follow through
- Comparing to others
- Creating excuses, such as overwhelm or being too busy
- Hoping to please and be accepted by all
When you are feeling stuck in some area of your life, dig a little deeper and notice if perfection is holding you back.
Some tips in helping you move forward:
- Chances are it’s fear talking. Get curious. What is the fear trying to tell you?
- Baby steps, my friend. Take one tiny movement forward at a time. Small is good.
- Scale back your goal. Is there a more realistic version available?
- Break down the task into more manageable chunks. What can I get done in 15 minutes?
- Think about your bigger purpose and higher intention. Will this help you get there?
- It’s not about the end result. How can you choose to show up along the way?
- Feel the feels and do it anyway! That’s how you get to the other side.
Are there other areas in my life in which perfectionism is preventing me from moving forward? Maybe it’s time for me to take a closer look. But what I do know is that I moved it out of the way long enough to trust that my authentic light would shine beyond the clouds of imperfection.